If you want a new relationship in 2013, then start by following these dating resolutions.
If a relationship is on your list of things to do in the next 12 months, these resolutions should provide some inspiration while you are busy building your own:
Resolution 1: Start Living in the future
“Stop basing your future potential relationship to your past relationships,” says Carole Brody Fleet, author of Widows Wear Stilettos. “We all suffered our fair share of losers, liars, bad connections, and so on . Thus, the resolution of laughter and let them go. Open your mind to the possibilities of your future and do not automatically condemn someone new based on your past experiences. ‘
Getting Started: Write the names of exes painful down on slips of paper and burn it on New Year’s Eve. It is a powerful (and harmless) gesture that can help you start the new year with a clean slate emotion.
Resolution 2: End of unhealthy relationships, and other Platonic
If you are too emotionally drained from toxic out with friends, or stuck in a relationship that is going nowhere, resolve to get out as quickly as possible. This is the plan Millot Charlotte Gotham, New York State has chosen for herself this year: “I decided to put an end to any relationship that is not healthy or functional support,” says it. It also decides to put an end to the search for the One. Wait, what? “The relationships that have been the most significant are those that I found,” says Charlotte. “They just happened. I usually tend to live my life, have fun… and then one day, I hit on the head by someone I simply have to be with, who has also to be with me. dance Our hearts are, and we both do the rest.”
Getting Started: Focus on doing everything and anything to make you happy – and busy – from January 1. Take this photography course you thought, playing with your dog at the dog park near every Sunday, or join a group of volunteers and get to know your neighbors while doing things that benefit your communities. Simply set up a schedule that includes activities that you normally do not do and stick to it.
Resolution 3: Back in the dating game
This seems obvious, but it bears repeating. If you have a broken heart, the best way to fix it is to get out there and date other people. This is what makes MaryAnn Lowry – which is no small feat after the end of his 31-year marriage. “I had my last official date in 1975. I never forgot how to ride a bike, so using hypothetical reasoning, we can assume that I have not forgotten how to behave on a date and win a kiss on the lips well before the end of the evening, “said Mary Ann.
Getting Started: If it’s been decades since you gave your number to anyone, ask friends to set you up with someone is a way to ease you into the dating pool while avoiding bars and clubs. However, if it is a particularly toxic ex hung up on you, sharing your troubles with a therapist can help speed up the healing process before you start dating someone new.